Kim Peterson, CEO CommonSenseHealth.org
Psychologists have long noted that stress affects men and women differently. Women tend to seek out social support, while men are more likely to withdraw their emotions.
I am blessed to have so many amazing men in my life, and have always been intrigued by the dance between male and female energy, in both platonic and romantic relationships. Thanks to a handful of some my favorite men, I've thrown in a few quotes (from said men...unidentified, of course ;).
It seems as if there is a ton of information out there, addressing women and stress...the stresses of being a mother and managing a career, having a steamy relationship with your spouse or partner while managing a household and a bad body image...the list goes on and on.
But what about guys? They get stressed, don't they?
"I'm an expert on living with stress."
Medical Daily states...
Scientists from several international universities found that men under stress generally respond by becoming more withdrawn and acting more as an individual. Women, on the other hand, become prosocial. They share their stress with others, hoping to elicit empathy, and expect to be relied on when other members in their group are stressed, as well. Where men become more self-centered, thinking their emotions are universally shared, women often become more compassionate.
"I think there is a direct correlation in one's ability to deal with high levels of stress (and not have a complete meltdown) and one's ability to be a successful entrepreneur. The biggest (and most important) part is one's ability to hang in there and keep pushing forward, despite the brambles and bushes, until the Universe finally decides to cut you a break. (That sometimes can take a long time.)"
Every Day Health points out the health ramifications of the effects of stress on men.
High anxiety levels can be life-threatening. Major life events, including job loss, can be deadly; researchers at McGill University in Montreal found after analyzing data on more than 20 million people who had lost their jobs. Researchers found that men, particularly those in the early or middle portion of their careers, had a higher risk for death due to job loss than both women and men later in their careers.
“We know that major stressors, like job loss, marital separation, natural disasters, personal illness, or death of a loved one, can have serious physical and mental consequences,” says Dave Montgomery, MD, PhD, a cardiologist and internal medicine specialist in Atlanta, Georgia.
“Heart disease is known to increase in those with these major stressors. They can also lead to syndromes of anxiety or major depression, and some who suffer such traumatic events turn to behaviors that exacerbate the problem, such as substance abuse, physical inactivity, and poor dieting. Suicidal ideations — the thought or plan to commit suicide — can also arise from these events. Moreover, depression puts men at risk for heart attacks.”
Substance abuse? Depression? Suicidal thoughts? Heart attacks?
Time to stop keeping things bottled up inside, don't you think?
"Swearing - A good well executed tirade directed at nothing is particularly cleansing. If that doesn’t work, an hour or so of bashing drums until the voices in my head can no longer be heard will do it. After that liquor."
"Dealing productively with stress is actually something I think we're prewired to do (or not do)."
"Practical techniques that have helped me through some of my toughest times, I have three favorites: fishing (catch and release, of course), walking (for at least two miles at a pop) and taking a long, hot bath...with a notepad close by."
And, not to muddy the water...
Actually, when I read this, it caught me a little of guard. This could be an eye opener for both parties. Respecting one another, giving each other space and time as we try to manage the stresses in our lives...in our own ways...can make all the difference in a relationship.
APA or American Psychiatric Association covers the topic of how often married vs, single women experience stress.
An article from the UCLA Newsroom discussed a study of how couples address stress when dealing with each other
“Men seem to be different when it comes to managing stress,” said Thomas Bradbury, the paper’s senior author and co-director of the Relationship Institute at UCLA. “When men are stressed, they are more likely to be critical in responding to a stressed partner and less likely to be positive, nurturing and comforting. And that’s especially the case when their partner expresses her feelings in more emotional terms.”
Major take aways?
Just kidding! Understanding how men differ with how they deal with stress can help you lower your stress levels as well...we are very different beings. Patience, understanding, and taking time to care for yourself (put of your oxygen mask before helping anyone else) can help you better deal with the stress of your loved one.
"Ok, in order to overcome stress and overwhelm, I don’t slow down or stop. I plow through it. I think rest and relaxation is overrated especially when you can solve the issue by confronting it. To do this, I do a few things. First, I clean the area / room where I am doing work. I cannot focus or work in a messy area. Once that’s done, I organize what needs to be done to solve the problem and list the steps in priority. Then, once the problem is solved I take a look at the likelihood of the problem reoccurring and put a plan in action to stop it from happening again. I always try to incorporate any kind of leverage I can in the solution, be it a virtual assistant or some type of software automation. I also look to see if solving that problem is making me money. If it isn’t I just get rid of it altogether and stop doing that."
Guys. Please take time to take care of yourself. Do what you need to unplug, recharge and regain your mojo.
Fish, swear, ride your bike, walk, take a hike, hang with your friends, run, read, push through, don't push through, take a nap, have some hot and steamy extracurricular activities with the one you love...
We love you!
Kim Peterson is a passionate Health & Wellness Advocate and the Founder and CEO of CommonSenseHealth.org. Since 2009, CSH has been helping to establish an online presence while generating leads and sales for Health & Wellness clients worldwide. Prior to CSH, Kim was the Founder of Light Force Therapy, a company that rapidly became a multi-million-dollar leader in the light therapy industry.
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